When we started planning a wedding, about a year ago, Truman and I had a conversation that went something like this:
Me: Should we do a wedding registry?
Him: I don't know, we already have a colander.
Then we went to a couple weddings where the couples didn't have registries and it was just annoying. Clearly we weren't going to attend their wedding without bringing a gift. And if we're going to bring a gift it might as well be something they actually want.
So we registered on Amazon. Because, serious, I don't need a $40 butter knife (I see you crate and barrel!). And as we built a registry we realized there was actually a decent amount of stuff we did actually want for our new house. So we registered from mostly practical things like a decent set of pots and pans (screw you set from college) and a salt and pepper shaker (note: the $4 ones from Ross really aren't worth the money, go get yourself a grown up salt and pepper mill). And some bigger things, like a chandelier.
Once we realized there were some things we actually really wanted we did what any modern couple in 2013 would do...we began trolling craig's list. Last week Truman found a perfect chandelier for less than half the price pottery barn was asking. We installed it last night and I think it looks awesome. I'm so pleased. Why buy new when you can be green (one less chandelier in a landfill right?) and save some money?
Before: lovely brass and oak ceiling fan.
After: awesome new-to-us chandelier.
He's a Keeper
I spent most of last week at a leadership training for my work. The training was good. There were some good people and some practical lessons. Plus, I took this awesome picture of a cow (bull? I'm a Los Angelino at heart, I know nothing about livestock):
This mountain retreat center getaway was a little ill timed. Heading off to the land of limited cell phone reception was pretty anxiety producing when one's wedding is less than 3 weeks away. Generally, phone contact is helpful when trying to work out logistics with a caterer. Anyhow, while I was away Truman was not only finding an awesome chandelier online, but also negotiating a great deal and traipsing all over the greater Denver area to pick the thing up. The kind of guy who is willing to deal hunt for the pottery barn chandelier you've been ogling is definitely a keeper (because, lets be honest, I'm not super sure he really cares about the style of our dining room lighting. This one was for my benefit). I'm very much looking forward to May 26th.
Speaking of Wedding Registries
I've tried my darnedest not to totally fall prey to the wedding industrial complex...while also admitting that American weddings merged with consumerism long long ago and so I can't be too hard on myself for wanting...you know... a photo booth. The facet of the wedding industrial complex I'm finding the most interesting at this moment is what I'm calling wedding registry creep.
What started out as "people will bring gifts, we should at least tell them what we want" and "we've not 19, we have most the things we need, we should register for some fun camping gear and upgrade some of the kitchen tools" somehow became "I really hope we get that $300 blender." Obviously, 12 months ago a $300 would have sounded insane to either of us. And here I sit with a hella hopeful registry. Damn the man.